Turning feelings of stress into an opportunity to grow
Summary of insights:
Times of stress can be an opportunity for growth
First you need to adopt a “stress is beneficial” mindset
Then you need to take action on something important to you
During times of crisis, it’s not unusual to worry about things that feel out of your control.
In the current pandemic, many leaders have been concerned about matters of health, finances, and even whether to send our kids back to school. You might be worrying about what long-term effects there could be for yourself, your team, or your family. These worries can lead to feelings of anxiety and stress. For some, they might lead to long-term problems such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is a condition of persistent mental and emotional stress.
But what about those leaders who come through difficult periods and experience growth afterward: a phenomenon we call Post-Traumatic Growth. How is it that these individuals come through the trauma with a positive response? And, even more importantly, how can more of us experience this?
The theory of Post-Traumatic Growth was developed by psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun. They found that for individuals who grew after a trauma, they saw improved relationships, greater appreciation of life, and enhanced perceptions of strength and mastery.
So what determines whether stress and trauma will harm or help us? It turns out that we do.
There are two tools that can help us leverage the stress we’re feeling and turn it into a growth opportunity. The first is our mindset and the second is our actions.
1. Mindsets
Let’s first look at mindsets. There is a considerable body of research regarding the effectiveness of mindset changes as it relates to post-traumatic growth. When we push ourselves to modify how we’re thinking about a situation, it can change our results. In this way, our mindset about stress can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Stress can activate a variety of responses. When we adopt a “stress-is-beneficial” mindset, however, we’re far more likely to achieve an optimal level of activation. In other words, we are energized enough to take action but not too much as to find it paralyzing or overwhelming.
I have been using this simple but powerful tool with my clients. While we acknowledge the stress they feel, I ask them to rephrase how they are thinking about the situation so that they are seeing it as an opportunity rather than as a threat. It’s not about saying “this isn’t stressful.” But it is about telling ourselves “stress can also be good for me” or “I have what it takes to manage this situation.” In many cases, we explore together what strengths they already have that will serve them well for upcoming challenges.
2. Actions
Now that we’ve looked at mindset, let’s consider the actions we can take. The first action is to take care of yourself. You might use this as an opportunity to explore better methods of self-care or recommit to healthful practices like getting sufficient sleep, eating the right foods, and getting more exercise. When we tend to our own needs, we have more resources available to deal with situations and continue to look forward.
In addition to caring for yourself, take action on something important to you. Finding one thing you can do to move yourself forward can quickly decrease your negative feelings. This could be reconnecting with someone in your network, getting clear on your career goals and aspirations, or tackling a task you have been putting off. Making progress on meaningful work keeps us focused on our goals.
We know we can’t always control the circumstances we’re in, but we do have the opportunity to consider how we respond to them. When faced with stress and trauma, it’s important to acknowledge your stress and the corresponding emotions you feel and then see that stress as a resource you can leverage to achieve your goals.
We can acknowledge the situations and challenges around us. We don’t pretend they aren’t happening or that they don’t have any negative effects. But then we ask ourselves: “what’s next?”
It’s about seeing stress and trauma as challenging, rather than threatening. It’s about acknowledging that the current situation is the beginning, rather than the end.
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A version of this article appeared in Ohio State University’s Fisher College of Business Lead Read Today publication and can be found here: https://fisher.osu.edu/blogs/leadreadtoday/how-turn-stress-a-growth-opportunity
Written by Bethany Klynn, PhD
Bethany Klynn is a consultant and executive coach who works with great companies to grow their leaders and transform their cultures.